Ask Anything - Kazikon Q&A Korner
- kazikon
- Dec 8, 2025
- 7 min read
Updated: Dec 9, 2025
The Kazikon Q&A Korner is a special section that provides clinical inspired responses from email inquiries sent to konnect@kazikon.com. Names have been omitted or changed to protect confidentiality.
Ask Anything - Kazikon Q&A Korner
"Do you take personal clients?" -Sean, Brooklyn, NY (February 2024)
Hi Sean,
Thanks for your email. I do offer one on one life coaching but due to legal liability and professional ethical standards I cannot characterize the sessions as "clinical based." If you would like to book a free 15 min. consult please visit the "Sessions with Shar" tab for a free 15 minute consultation.
Wassup Charlene,
"What I need to do to get a girl like you to love me?" -Anonymous, Manhattan, NY (May 2024)
Hi, there,
Thanks for reaching out to Kazikon. Love is not a monolith. What one women requires for love may not be representative to what the next woman requires from a man to reciprocate love.
Each human has unique requirements for love based on a compilation of their attachment style, love language, personality, life purpose and preferred miscellaneous character traits. Rather than focusing on what I prefer, you would best be served by exploring what love looks and feels like for you and your prospective partner.
"Why is it so hard to find a good man?" -LaKeisha, Charlotte, NC (August 2024)
Hi LaKeisha,
Thank you for Konnecting with Kazikon. To properly answer your question, I need to know more about what is your criteria for "good" and your analytical methods for "finding" a good man.
Often times human struggle to find long-term love because in the early attraction stages we fail to ask effective questions that can assess proper compatibility. Next time you find a man you fancy, try asking this golden question on the first date,
"What do you need in your life to feel ready for marriage and children?"
LaKeisha, next study what he says and how he says it. Watch his body language. It is vital that you ask this key question early on to ensure a logical over an emotional response.
Ask yourself, Is he repulsed by commitment? Does he become excited and relieved by the prospect of authentic love? Most importantly does the state of his current life match the answer he provided? Can you as a prospective wife envision being a helpmate toward his life purpose? How much time does he require before marriage and does that timeline align with your own personal goals for love and marriage?
Successful data collection will lead to less time wasting in dating, resulting to increased probability in finding the "good man" you desire.
"Are you a criminal lawyer? Can you help me with my case?" - Tyrone, Harlem, NY (January, 2025)
Hi Tyrone, I am not a lawyer - yet. I am a final year law student. Please visit the provided link for the New York State Defender Association for information for NYS/NYC attorneys. https://www.nysda.org/page/PDLinks
"I'm depressed but I don't know nothing bout no therapy, can you help me?" - Bob, Queens, NY (April 2025)
Hi Bob, Thank you for reaching out. I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing depression, you don't have to go through this alone. Kazikon is here to help. According to the National Institute of Health, roughly 8% of adults experience depression. For minorities and those impacted by poverty, the number rises to roughly 25% to 35%. I encourage you to schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation where we may explore your options for support. For immediate support please contact NYC 988: Call or text 988 for free, confidential crisis counseling, mental health support, and referrals 24/7, connecting you to local Mobile Crisis Teams if needed.
"New York girls just want money, how do I find a real woman?" - Anonymous, Brooklyn, NY (July 2025)
Hey there! Thank you so much for your honest question. As a "lover-economist," this is a question that sparks a lot of passion from me. The short answer is most women aren't truly searching for money, but for emotional security that is often robed in financial security.
Ever wonder why the dustiest men attract and maintain the shiniest women? Those men are providing a consistent flow of emotional currency that satisfies a women's primal instinct to feel protected and cared for. I'm not encouraging you to financially exploit women. I'm encouraging you to put less emphasis on financial income and more emphasis on your emotional outcomes. Most humans lack the emotional intelligence or the communication skills to truly express they need protection and security. To the untrained ear this can sound like "gimme money" but to the expert translator it really sounds like: "give me security."
Yes, lavish your lady to the best of your ability. But having a honest vulnerable conversation about your financial limitations AND your emotional non-limitations is the cheat code to securing the love you crave.
"When are the in person events coming?" - Mary, Staten Island, NY (November, 2025)
Hi Mary,
Happy Thanksgiving, thank you for your interest in our person events. At this stage in our mission, Kazikon is focused on building brand identity and brand trust. We are conscious that our mission statement contains three large hemispheres (therapy education, romantic connection and social justice) and thus we are being mindful of which agenda we want to launch first.
Right now, Kazikon is focused on brand education, building a loyal following and learning our growing audience in real time to effectively meet the needs of our growing audience. As an organization that serves underserved communities, our events strive to be low cost and or free which requires strategic fundraising and budgeting to ensure sustainability. If you would like to volunteer on the Kazikon Events Committee to help organize the launching of in-person events, please send me an email at Konnect@kazikon.com subject line: "Kazikon Events Committee."
Hi Ms. Charlene!
I like your Questions and Answers. You said love is not a monolith, what that mean? For the brothas on your page can you explain more about how to love a lady, like the steps and stuff? - Anonymous, Harlem World, NY (December 8, 2025)
Hello, again, Mr. "Harlem World,"
Here is the abstract:
Monolith means of the same type, so in a nutshell I'm saying, "love is not one size fits all." Love is a not fixed calculation but an ebb and flow that is contingent on two co-mingled destinies. When it comes to love, attraction gets you in the door, but unquenchable curiosity from both participants keeps you there.
Here is the essay:
For a man, this means understanding that love is not one-size-fits-all. There is no universal formula that works with every woman, no checklist that automatically produces love or loyalty. Each woman comes with her own history, attachment style, wounds, values, faith, and expectations. What feels loving to one woman (constant communication, reassurance, physical affection) may feel overwhelming to another. What one woman sees as effort, another may see as intrusion.
So for a man, love becomes less about performing a role and more about learning a person. It requires emotional intelligence asking questions, listening without defensiveness, and observing responses. A man who wants to love well must be willing to adapt without losing himself, to become curious instead of assuming, and flexible without becoming fake. Real love involves discovering what makes this woman feel seen, safe, cherished, and chosen not applying what worked with someone else.
It also means a man must know himself. When love is not a monolith, compatibility matters more than effort. If what a woman requires violates a man’s values, emotional capacity, or spiritual convictions, then love is not about trying harder, it's about choosing more wisely.
Men are not called to shapeshift into whoever they think a woman wants, but to be whole men who can meet the right woman where she is.
Ultimately, this truth invites men into maturity. Love stops being about control or performance and becomes about connection. The man who embraces this will stop asking, “How do I get her to love me?” and start asking, “Can I love her as she is and can she love me as I am?”
"Will therapy make me feel better?" - Josephine, Los Angeles, CA, (December 8, 2025 )
Hey Josephine,
Thank you for your great question. The honest answer is, "I don't know." Therapy is not a cure, it's a tool of self-examination to help guide YOU toward your most pure, happiest self. Clients who fail to properly manage expectations of the therapy experience the most dissatisfaction.
Therapy is best effective when it's proactive not reactive. If you are in acute crisis, you will best be served by short term "crisis counseling." If you are seeking resolution for long term pain with a self-awareness of where and why it hurts, therapy may be a better fit.
Most people fear therapy because of the pain inside of them that seeking therapy represents. Acknowledging the betrayal you experienced in life makes it "too real." When most people ask, "will therapy make me feel better?" What they really mean is, "does my pain have an expiration date or is the silent torment inside my head eternal?" Your interest in therapy is a beautiful sign that there is still HOPE for a more happier life.
I can't guarantee that therapy will make you feel better but I can guarantee that it will enhance your capacity to feel the range of all your emotions - "much better."
*Disclaimer:The content provided in the Kazikon Q&A “Ask Anything” section is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional, medical, legal, or mental health advice. Responses are provided by Kazikon team members and guest contributors based on general knowledge and experience, but they are not a substitute for personalized advice from a licensed professional.
By submitting questions or reading responses, you acknowledge that Kazikon, LLC does not create a professional-client relationship with you and is not responsible for any actions you take based on the information provided. For individualized guidance regarding mental health, legal, or medical issues, please consult a licensed professional.
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